"Love Dare"- Day 4: Love is Thoughtful

How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . .How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. —Psalm 139:17–18

“Love thinks.” How true that is. When my husband and I met we were in high school. I was 15 years old. He was 16. I remember how it was before we were in a relationship. Oh my goodness, I was crazy about him. I would’ve flipped over backwards for him. And as the book says I thought about him constantly. What he wanted, what he thought, needed, liked, didn’t like. It was all about him. He very quickly consumed my world.

And unfortunately also like the book says, our burning flames of romance have turned into very gray, very cold ash. And if I was brutally honest then I would have to say that our flames began to dim after the first year of our relationship. That was 11 years ago. It took 5 years fro our relationship to finally come to an end. We spent a little time apart and reunited once again. Talk about flames! Boy, oh boy, we were smokin’. And we eloped! But even then the flames began to dim and now here I am 5 years later without even an ember.

“Thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship.” Ouch! In an effort to not point fingers I won’t even defend myself here. All I will say is this is absolutely right. I have been incredibly thoughtless. And the sad thing about it is that in most cases I didn’t even know it. Here I was thinking that it was all for him. That I was putting him and his needs first and forgetting all about me. What a crock! It’s been about me for a long time. Disguised by the my “putting my wants and needs on the back burner”. What a mess!

I could keep going, but I won’t. What I will do is share what happened to me on this day…

Today’s task was relatively easy, again. My husband was home today. He owns a business and was preparing to go set up for an event. So in an effort to complete the challenge I asked him if there was anything that I could do to help. He told me no. So I did my best just to be kind. And that seemed to work to get us through the rest of the day.  Easy peasy!

Now on page 18 of the Love Dare book it asks, “When was the last time you spent a few minutes thinking about how you could better understand and demonstrate love to your spouse? What immediate need can you meet? What the next event (anniversary, birthday, holiday) you could be preparing for? Great marriages come from great thinking.” So here is my final thought… This is something that I should be trying to commit to every day. And as I told a good friend of mine recently we have got to learn to do things with no strings attached. That’s where the pain lies. So here’s a being a thoughtful person. Simply me… no strings attached.

I thank God in all my remembrance of you. – Phillipians 1:3

I’m hopeful for what the next 36 days hold. I look forward to allowing God to make me over again and renew my relationship with Him and my husband.

If you can, come join me on this journey. Leave your comments and let’s be there for one another.

Read up for tomorrow:

Day 5: Love is Not Rude

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